“Helping you gain control over the things you want to change”
When we are dealing with traumatic memories, we need to be able to process them so they become part of our life narrative. We know the event or events happened, but we don’t respond to the memories of them emotionally or physically.
I am trained and professionally qualified in the use of a range of cutting edge therapeutic treatments including EMI (Eye Movement Integration). Eye Movement Integration is a powerful method for treating emotional difficulties and for many clients it provides more rapid relief from emotional distress than conventional psychotherapies.
We are now well into what is a very strange summer indeed for many of us. In my experience, there is a very high level of general anxiety about as we try to find the best ways of living in a world which has changed such a lot.
The recent release of Bill Cosby from jail was unexpected. For many people who have suffered sexual assault and are trying to overcome the trauma and get on with their lives, it felt devastating.
If not treated the symptoms of PTSD can be devastating and impact hugely on what otherwise can be a positive life experience, enjoying those first months and years with a new baby. If you think you are suffering with post-natal PTSD please get in touch.
The slow lifting of lockdown is finally here. This is leading us to a world of more options. The chance to make choices, which has been a long way off for so long, now seems much closer or even already here.
PTSD can be a debilitating illness and it appears to be getting more common. The good news is that there are a variety of modern techniques which can help. I am going to go into detail about what these are and how they work.
It’s that time of year again! Exams at school and at university are fast approaching. As usual, I notice the increase in clients seeking my help in my hypnotherapy for anxiety clinics in Harley Street and in Henley on Thames.
I don’t know what went on behind the doors of the various royal palaces between Megan and Harry and the rest of the Royal Family, so I am not going to say anything specific about the very unhappy situation which has developed. But there are things that Megan and Harry revealed in their interview with Oprah Winfrey which do really worry me.
Most of us are feeling heartily sick of lockdowns. But given that it looks like they are with us for some time, I am going to take another look at how we can cope.
I am going to take a look about what you can do if you are being sexually harassed at work. At the forefront of my work is how you can protect yourself, and emerge with the least possible damage.
"Helping you gain control over the things you want to change"ANXIETY & STRESS TRAUMA & PTSD LACK OF CONFIDENCE WOMEN'S HEALTH POST NATAL PTSD It might be off the front pages, but the pain of sexual trauma does not go away. Posted on 19 January 2021 I was looking back...
This year, this strange 2020 year unlike no other in our lifetimes, I will not be blogging about Christmas anxiety. Well, that is not quite true, I am going to be talking about anxiety but in a very different context.
"Helping you gain control over the things you want to change"ANXIETY & STRESS TRAUMA & PTSD LACK OF CONFIDENCE WOMEN'S HEALTH POST NATAL PTSD Masks, Cognitive Dissonance & Keeping Calm Posted on 20 Nov 2020 A friend of mine, who lives in a European country, phoned...
I posted a message on my Facebook page recently. I said: “Things do not feel good at the moment. We will all need all our resilience and a lot of strength to get through the next period. I think this can be done and it may even teach us some useful life lessons. More this week on how we stay well and happy and we go into a tough winter.”
We are moving into a new phase as the coronavirus pandemic unfolds. We are still in a fast-moving story and none of us knows what the autumn and winter will bring. We have all got used to living with uncertainty and coping with rapid, and often unwanted change. For many of us isolation and loneliness have been tough. For others being cooped up with the family has put great strains on our closest and most precious relationships.
There will be a lot of change and challenge over the next months. If you are finding it hard to adapt please contact a cognitive practitioner such as myself. We can help you reset your mental map in these changing times to something which will help guide and support you through the world. It can be done and often it is not too difficult. It will help you navigate the unknown future.
Are you an INTJ or an ESTP? Do not worry if you do not know what I am talking about, all will become clear. It is all about personality types and how understanding our own type and that of those around us can make our lives easier, happier and more fulfilled.
In this long and strange tale of the Coronavirus, things are starting to ease up just a little bit. We are entering a new phase. The weather is getting better and there is a hint of summer in the air. Children are going back to school and offices are beginning to open up again. You might think that in a time like this, therapists would be having a much quieter time. Shouldn’t this relatively good news be bringing happiness and a sense of that things are improving at last?
‘Don’t tell anyone, but there are some things I quite like about lockdown,’ If I had a pound for every client who has said this to me recently, I would have lots of money but not much to spend it on at the moment. But joking aside, comments like this reveal something very important about how different personality types cope differently when social life is constrained.
I notice something very interesting with the clients I see for sexual abuse and trauma. Although the Weinstein trial has finished and justice seems to have been done, a number of my clients are finding it difficult to put behind them. One said to me the other day, “Everyone else is obsessed with corona virus and I still keep thinking about Harvey Weinstein. What is wrong with me?”
If you are a regular reader of this blog then you will know I often talk about resilience. That is the ability to deal with the bad things which life can throw at you and still remain a mentally healthy and well person.
We are all being tested at the moment. And I know many of my clients who are trying to cope with feelings around the coronavirus are finding it very difficult. Health anxiety and the Corona virus is a real thing. It can be dealt with and I am going to give you my take on it.
This year my book on how to survive sexual harassment will be published. It is based on my experiences of working with many, many clients who have gone through difficult and traumatic experiences of sexual harassment and attack and want to come out the other side and live good, happy and fulfilled lives. I now know a lot about this area. I know that the majority of people respond similarly when they suffer unwanted sexual attention, especially at work. When I read about famous men accused of abuse,
I keep a close eye on developments in the world of mental health and improving emotional wellness and Tweet and Facebook regularly. Here are some of the best things around at the moment. Posted by me in the last month. Feel free to share!
Roal family mental health awareness – I am so pleased to see the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are carrying on their ground-breaking work to increase awareness of and improve mental health.
Harvey Weinstein: reflections on #me too and how it has changed the landscape for survivors of sexual harassment and abuse
Harvey Weinstein: reflections on #me too & how it has changed the landscape for survivors of sexual harassment – If you feel I could help you then contact me.
It’s no surprise to see a number of anxious parents wanting to see me. It is that time of year as another generation gets ready to go away to university and away from home for the first time.
As my cognitive hypnotherapy for anxiety clinic is in Harley Street, I see quite a number of people in the public eye and I know from my own clinical experience that anyone can suffer from anxiety disorders.
Even very successful people can be anxious. I come across this every day I work with clients. Much of the work I do to help conquer anxiety is based in Harley Street.
We are nearly halfway through the year and what a year it has been! And now we are faced with yet another election. Our political situation in the UK feels very uncertain indeed, no-one could safely say where we will be next year.
Blog on future proofing our mental health. We all experience ups and downs and pressures in life, and there is increasing evidence that these ups and downs impact on our working lives as well. Several organisations have begun recently to look at how our personal concerns impact on life at work and vice versa.
Social media: paid influencers experiencing mental health problems and this should be a warning to us all
I have been tweeting recently (@fionanicolson3) about the increasing research on how social media is damaging the mental health of young people, especially girls. The constant competition, the chasing of shares and likes of posts and pictures and the exposure to other people’s seemingly perfect lives are causing harm.